One of our readers shared a jaw-dropping family drama: she’s renting an apartment from her own MIL. Recently, the woman lost her job, and her mother-in-law first comforted her… only to later turn the whole renting process into a full-blown family drama.
Here’s an email we got from Donna:
So, my husband (32M) and I (30F) live in his mom’s apartment. It’s been her name on the lease, but when we moved in, she said we could rent it. Cool, whatever.Here’s the kicker: for the last two years, I have paid 100% of the rent. My husband pays zero. Don’t ask me why, he claims it’s ‘between me and my mom,’ and I stupidly agreed because he was between jobs then, and I had a good salary.
Fast-forward to now: I just lost my job last week. MIL actually called to comfort me, telling me everything would be okay. Sweet, right? WRONG.
Later that day, I got a text from her that shook me, ‘From now on, you must start looking for a job, because I accept no delays in payment.’
I called her, thinking it was a misunderstanding. Nope. She doubled down. She said, I must keep paying her, because my husband is her son, and I’m ‘just a tenant.’
She said I don’t even have kids with her son, so, obviously, I’m not even related to her in any way. If I don’t pay, I get evicted. Apparently, in her eyes, my husband gets free housing forever, while I’m basically an ATM with a pillow.
She even told me when I find a job, I need to informher so she knows I can pay again. Like, excuse me? Am I married or in a weird landlord-tenant Hunger Games?
I feel humiliated. My husband shrugs and says, ‘That’s just how she is.’
Am I crazy for thinking this is beyond messed up? Shouldn’t he be paying if she wants rent so badly? What should I do in this messy situation?”
Bright Side community members couldn’t stay indifferent about the woman’s story.
Many Bright Side readers were impressed by Donna’s complicated story. People rushed to the comments to express their opinions, and here are some of the most popular comments from our readers so far:
- ThrowRA_RageQuit (29F)
Girl, RUN. Your husband is complicit in this. If he had any respect, he’d pay or tell his mom to back off. This isn’t MIL being quirky; this is financial abuse. - DadOfThree1980 (44M)
What’s going on here? Why are you married to a man who lets his wife pay his mom rent while he contributes nothing? Divorce papers would cost less than this arrangement. - CoffeeAndChaos (26F)
INFO: Did your husband EVER offer to pay? Because the fact he says “that’s just how she is” tells me he’s fine exploiting you. - LegalBeagle_JD (34F)
Eviction laws vary, but if your name isn’t on the lease, and you’ve been paying her directly, you might actually be a tenant legally. BUT also? This is a relationship problem, not just a housing one. - NotYourMoment (31F)
You’re not a wife to them. You’re an ATM with benefits. MIL sees you as a walking wallet, and hubby seems okay with it. Huge red flag. - JustPiece_ForHalf (38M)
Not defending MIL, but why didn’t you and hubby split rent like normal couples? Paying 100% for 2 years is wild. - SpicyPanorama (27F)
This isn’t just unfair; it’s humiliating. She literally said “you’re nobody.” That would’ve been my villain origin story.
- MILfromHellSurvivor (41F)
I had a MIL like this. It NEVER gets better. Either you set hard boundaries NOW, or you’ll be paying her mortgage in your retirement. - FinancialFeminist (33F)
Girl, stop looking for a job until hubby steps up. Let him deal with mommy’s rules. Why are YOU the only adult here? - GrandpaKnows (67M)
Old man here: marriage means shared responsibility. If your husband can’t tell his mother to back off, you married a boy, not a man. - RollerIsDue (22M)
Hot take: MIL is trash, but you agreed to pay all rent. That’s on you too. Stop enabling and move out. - DramaAddict (24F)
You’re absolutely right here, but PLEASE update us when you go nuclear. Screen cap that text. I smell karma coming. - TiredLawStudent (28F)
MIL’s statement is legally insane. Lady, you’re literally her tenant, paying her bills for years. The entitlement is unreal. - DivorcePapers_33 (35M)
Sounds like your husband married you for convenience. Sorry, but no man with a spine would let this happen. - ILoveReceipts (30F)
Please tell me you have receipts for ALL payments. If you do, you might have leverage if she tries to evict you. - MomsBoyNoMore (40M)
This is why I moved across the country. Men like your husband never cut the cord. They just let their wives dangle. - TriangleThrow (33F)
This is layered. MIL is toxic, but your husband is enabling her. Couples therapy or get out. - NoFreeMeals (25M)
Why the hell is he living for free while YOU fund his family’s property? That’s parasitic. - PettyQueen (29F)
Petty idea: Tell MIL you’ll pay when hubby starts paying child support… because that’s the energy she’s giving. - RealityCheckMate (37F)
Stop asking if you’re crazy. You’re not. This is a power play by MIL, and your husband’s silence is consent. Pack your bags.
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